THE MOM IN ME-1

Motherhood comes in only one form and i call it CARE. It has its many ways of showing and being showered upon. For many years I only knew the ways of recieving it,enjoying it and knowing that it exists. On the other hand knowing it had made a home in me was a different discovery in all... thats when i knew I am a MOM!!!
We see babies everyday in every other place that we go & little do we know we will be mothers one day.
My journey began when that little white stick showed me 2 red lines ,saying its positive!!!! Seeing it I already felt i was ready for this new chapter in my life. With time it made me think how many changes can two red lines bring in your life.
Motherhood starts making you aware of the new life inside you so quickly as though you were born for it... but then it is the truth isnt it?? We as women were designed for it .
The feeling of something living inside you is amazing... like you are not you and still you are!! And thus begins the journey of knowing and the need to know it all. A thought that tells you and makes you promise yourself never to make a mistake.... but then.. we are humans even if we ought to be moms!!! Dont think you wont make mistakes .. first time moms or not.. each pregnancy is different and each child born is unique.

The first time moms-dont think that nausea and vomitting are a part of every womans pregnancy!! (A myth our filmy world has created). You could be as normal as you are in everyday life or as ill as you could have ever imagined. Like I ,for instance never vomited while on the other hand my mom said she vomited even 10min before she gave me birth!!! Everything she ate during her time was out in minutes!!! I on the other hand enjoyed every kind of food and more so i cooked the cravings i had the way i wanted.. like more salted or bitter etc. So girls your expriences too will differ at your time!

What is more important is to try and eat healthy,do your check ups regularly,take your vaccinations on time and the most important is to exercise n be happy!! A happy mom is a stress free and a complication free mom. Also it is important to read about pregnancy and its stages because becoming a mom is always filled with surprises &new things to learn. A book that is most compulsorily recomended is "WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU ARE EXPECTING" - A book that will answer all your questions!

More to come in my next blog.

About me- My name is Ruhi and am a mom of a lil toddler. These are my expriences of being a mom and the expriences that have been shared by my near and dear ones. Hope it helps mothers in some way to enjoy their motherhood.

THE MOM IN ME-2

Mom's &the to be moms.. as we have started our journey im sure you have already tried to find yourself in it in many ways. Well its so natural to think" hey u know what.. she is right.. i did go througth this!" or "hmmm i dont know what I might go through my journey!"

So ladies.. when your" pregometer" shows you the 2 red lines well it is what we say "Good News!!". And after all the spread of news to the to be relatives and the unforgetfull surprise on your huby's face.. the first thing to be done is to schedule a doctor's appointment.

When that is fixed you must try and put down the queries or questions that you and your partner would like to ask so that your doubts are cleared. Dont feel hasitant to ask for the simplest of doubts to be cleared. Why i say this is because many people think how foolish they might sound if they ask such a question, the fact being that no question is foolish when it comes to health , rather not asking them is foolishness.

After your first examination you will be given your ANC, i.e. Antinatal Card. If not given then you must ask for it. This is because it gives you the dates required for your tests and checkup's and also your ultrasounds. In it your doctor can write your general stats and ensure the next appointment. At this point your doctor will ask u to have your blood test in the following week to confirm pregnancy and your hemoglobin count.

As you by now are already into your 4th or 5th week advices are going to flow in from every where. Many necessary and many unnecessary. Its then on you to use the required ones(although its generally tough). Food habits have to be changed and sorted not because it is said so but because its necessary. Healthy eating and a good nutritious diet are of utmost importance. And many things are to be avoided to help keep the foetus from harm. For eg. You will be told not to consume papayas or have much of chick pea flour or food items that provide too much heat to the body.

Comming back to finding the mom in yourself.. well you are at the begining of the first few steps.. a path full of questions, confusions and hesitations. That extra care coming from everyone around you comes only at this stage,so gals enjoy every bit of it. Also like i said in the last chapter some of you might remain normal and some of you will exprience nausea and vomiting. So please dont worry about it , but there is a catch in it, you still have to eat whether you vomit or not! Its important for the food to atleast reach your stomach because you are eating for the life growing inside you.. I know what your thinking at this point "how can i do that??" Well thats why they say "Motherhood aint easy!!!".

Pregnancy goes through three trimesters.. each consisting of three months. So in these first three, girl go easy.. &be carefull. Go for easy simple walks. If you are a trainer then u can do what u regularly do  just at a slow pace. Like I for example used to take dance classes and aerobics. So i did not do many sever movements and switched my aerobics batch towards the senior citizens where the pace was slow. Also pregnancy yoga helps with good blood flow to the growing foetus. Also a good start to get used to the pregnancy is to make a concious effort not to bend down and pick things from the floor. Rather start from the begining so that you get used to it.. so u must squat down and then pick things .. this helps when your stomach grows beyond 5months & thus it wont be difficult or new then!!

While reading this so many things must be a part of your thought. Its ok.. it will still be the same as time grows!! Another thought is "how will I go through all this?? There is so much to take care of and so much to remember!" But then it never has been easy being a woman right?? Also with time you will learn that there's so much more to know and learn. Every day will be a new chapter of new experiences and new lessons. From now on your time isn't going to be just yours, it's going to be all that you want to do for your child and how your time will revolve around this new treasure that you will hold in your arms by the end of it's journey inside you and the new journey that both of you will begin and the world calls it BIRTH.

More to come in my next blog.

About me- My name is Ruhi and am a mom of a lil toddler. These are my expriences of being a mom and the expriences that have been shared by my near and dear ones. Hope it helps mothers in some way to enjoy their motherhood.

THE MOM IN ME - 3

It has been observed by me and rather by many more that in this new era of women empowerment and as the woman in us takes a new stand in the outside world, the thought of becoming a mother is not just a picture of being the 'feminine form'.. its about making womanhood one with motherhood..!!

By stating this I don't say this just about those with jobs.. it's the same with those who choose to be home maker's!!!
The feeling of you never to be ready is always a part of it, so don't be disheartened by it... you will over come it as soon as you hold your baby for the first time. Although at this stage you are being filled with a lot of hormones in your body.... so over thinking and over reactions are all a part of the game!!

This is where mostly all the husband's are the ones to take lessons of extreme understanding...(the poor punching bags). Your going to be running into a spree of emotions... depending on what kind of hormones are affecting you the most!!! So don't be surprised if you find yourself screaming for the silliest reasons or crying for no reason.... that is all what we say 'hubby dear deal with it...!!!'

Being forgetful is also a common behavioral change that you will observe. For e.g. you would open the refrigerator to get something and might just scan it and shut it back again, and you could end up doing it a couple more times!! Or may be you would enter a room to fetch something and move out by doing something else like  - just look at yourself in the mirror, this too might happen a couple of times.. with the people around you wondering 'what's wrong with you?'. At such times husband's generally say' my love you seem to be stressed, why don't you relax!'. So girls enjoy the attention!!!

Coming to the health part.. High Heels are a big NO! Also from the start keep your posture right. This is extremely important as with time your body structure is going to change so we  or rather our bodies tend to take a more easier way to carry the extra weight! So as your curvature increases you tend to make a hunch in your back and protrude your tummy outward. And this tends to happen unknowingly... which in the later stages comes out as severe lower back aches, or disc swelling or spine stiffness!! So girls with a conscious effort and a conscious mind practice and make sure when you walk or stand your back is straight. Also tell your husband and people around you to correct you if they see you slouching your back. This is also a form of yoga, so will help you feel energized as much as possible.

More to come in my next blog.

About me- My name is Ruhi and am a mom of a lil toddler. These are my expriences of being a mom and the expriences that have been shared by my near and dear ones. Hope it helps mothers in some way to enjoy their motherhood.